Emotional Intelligence, or in short called EI is a controversial topic, but it is one of the most widely discussed alternatives to the traditional IQ. Emotional Intelligence means that you can perceive the emotions and emotions of others and productively manage them.
Emotional Intelligence is a fundamental part of life, and it can influence how successful you are in your career and relationships. Whatever your current life stage is, you can use simple ways to enhance your emotional Intelligence. Apart from them, you can also read books on emotional Intelligence to enhance your capabilities.
While you are rushing from one commitment to the next, meeting the deadlines, giving responses to the external demands and doing other tasks, you lose touch with your current emotions. When you are doing all these, you are acting unconsciously, and you are missing out on some important information that your emotions have.
When you are practicing what you are feeling, you are learning to trust the emotions totally, and you are becoming far more capable of managing them. If you are feeling out of the practice, you should do a few of these things-
You can set a timer at various points during the whole day. When the timer goes off, you can take a few deep breathes and notice how you feel from an emotional point of view. Pay attention to where emotions are showing up as you’re physically feelings vary and what sensations you are feeling. The more you will practice it, the more it will become second nature.
This can be one of the most challenging steps, and it is very helpful. Your emotions and behavior is your creation, and they do not come from anyone else. Therefore, you are solely responsible for it. If you feel bad, someone else comes around, and you lash out to him or her, you are solely responsible for it. Besides, your feelings will provide you with valuable information about another person’s experience and his or her preferences and needs. Still, your feelings are not anyone else’s responsibility.
Once you start to accept the responsibility for how you are feeling and how you are behaving, it will positively impact all sectors of your life.
It is your responsibility to create a positive environment and practice skills like self-awareness, self-empathy and self-responsibility. You can make time for noticing what is going around and where you are grateful in your life. You can create a positive environment that will not only help in improving your overall life but also be contagious for the people who are around you.
There is a slight yet crucial difference between responding and reacting. Reacting is the unconscious process where you will experience an emotional trigger within you and behave unconsciously that will either express or relieve your emotions out.
However, responding is a conscious manner to deal with matters. It involves noticing how you are feeling and deciding how you want to behave.
EI is not something that you develop one at a time, it is a lifetime process, and it improves day by day. Even when you feel that you have already mastered all the steps, there is always something left.